Cleveland Hero Charles Ramsey Lauded as “Definition of Man” Served Time for Domestic Abuse

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Cleveland Hero Charles Ramsey Lauded as “Definition of Man” Served Time for Domestic Abuse (Facebook)

Is Charles Ramsey, who allegedly rescued the three women held hostage by Ariel Castro, Monday afternoon really the “definition of a man?” After all, like Ariel Castro, he was a domestic abuser. The Smoking Gun reports his rap sheet includes three separate domestic violence convictions that resulted in prison sentences. So, is that really the definition of a man, a repeat wife beater? T-shirts have gone on sale honoring him as “Cleveland’s Hero.” His last arrest was 10 years ago, and he hasn’t reoffended, so shouldn’t he be left alone?

Hodge’s Cleveland, a restaurant in Downtown Cleveland where Ramsey works as a “dish technician,” started selling the T-shirts Wednesday. At Ramsey’s request, all proceeds will go to Amanda Berry, Gina DeJesus and Michelle Knight, the young women he liberated.

Here’s more on Cleveland’s Hero Charles Ramsey:

Ramsey’s first domestic violence charge came in February 1997. He entered a no contest plea a year later and was found guilty of the count by a Cleveland Municipal Court judge. While waiting to be sentenced, Ramsey was again arrested for domestic violence.

At the time of Ramsey’s second collar, in July 1998, he was already the subject of an arrest warrant issued in connection with his failure to appear for a court hearing in the first domestic violence case. As a result, Ramsey was jailed for violating terms of his release on bond. Ramsey subsequently entered a no contest plea to the second case and was, again, found guilty by a Cleveland judge.

The domestic violence cases apparently were consolidated for sentencing in August 1998, when Ramsey was ordered to serve six months in jail, placed on five years probation, and directed to attend a domestic violence counseling program.

Following his release from custody, Ramsey violated probation terms, according to an April 1999 court docket entry. While an arrest warrant was issued for Ramsey, it is unclear from court records whether it was executed before both misdemeanor cases were formally closed several years later.

Ramsey was again busted for domestic abuse in January 2003. He was subsequently indicted for felony “domestic violence with prior conviction,” a reference to his previous abuse cases. Source

Not to rain on Charles Ramsey’s parade, if he truly rescued Amanda Berry, Gina DeJesus and Michelle Knight, all praises to him for doing the right thing. Though there are rumblings that someone else had rescued the women from the house and not Charles Ramsey. Still, to hold him in such high esteem as the “definition of a man” can be considered by some as an affront to every woman, including the three he rescued, who have ever been on the receiving end of domestic violence.

Let me end by saying, if Charles Ramsey has changed, then good for him and I applaud him for refusing any proceeds from his new-found fame. Domestic violence continues to escalate in this country and not every victim is able to leave an abusive relationship — some are killed or maimed in some way. I serve a God of second chances and if he has changed, then we all need to give Charles Ramsey that second chance. I will say, he needs to mend fences with his daughter sooner rather than later. Their relationship is rocky for a reason.

 

NH Rep. Mark Warden Apologizes for Insensitive Domestic Abuse Remarks

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NH Rep. Mark Warden Apologizes for Insensitive Domestic Abuse Remarks (Photo Credit: Mark Warden)

Republicans continue to show how out of touch they are with women’s issues and it is a sad commentary. The latest Republican to trivialize a women’s issue, in the tradition of Richard Mourdock, is New Hampshire Rep. Mark Warden, who said some people may like being in abusive relationships and that they are free to leave at any time.

Um, case in point, Elizabeth Wilson was stabbed to death by her boyfriend Peter Daniels in Niagara Falls. She had reportedly complained of being afraid of Daniels.  So, no, Rep. Mark Warden, it isn’t as easy as you think to walk away.  Rep. Mark Warden made the insensitive comments Tuesday during a debate on a bill to reduce the penalty for simple assault in some cases, the Concord Monitor reports.

“Some people could make the argument that a lot of people like being in abusive relationships. It’s a love-hate relationship. It’s very, very common for people to stick around with somebody they love who also abuses him or her,” said Rep. Mark Warden, a Republican who represents Deering, Goffstown and Weare, during a meeting of the House Criminal Justice and Public Safety Committee, according to a video provided by Granite State Progress, a liberal advocacy group.

According to the video, Warden added, “Is the solution to those kind of dysfunctional relationships going to be more government, another law? I’d say no. People are always free to leave.” Source

Amazing. Another politician dismissing being in an abusive relationship as no big deal. Absolutely despicable. Why make the comment only to apologize? Rep. Mark Warden apologized Wednesday saying,  “It was never my intention to minimize the trauma of domestic abuse or in any way demean the victims. I find violence abhorrent.” Um, that’s not what you said yesterday bruh!

Reeva Steenkamp’s ‘Joburg Dad’ Cecil Myers: Oscar Pistorius Was “Hasty, Impatient and Very Moody”

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Reeva Steenkamp’s ‘Joburg Dad’ Cecil Myers: Oscar Pistorius Was “Hasty, Impatient and Very Moody” (Photo credit: Twitter)

REEVA STEENKAMP’S ‘JOBURG DAD’ SPEAKS:  The murder of Reeva Steenkamp continues to weigh heavily on my mind. Why did this young woman have to die? Why do many women fall victim to domestic violence and domestic violence murders? We may never know if Reeva Steenkamp was the victim of domestic violence, but some people who were close to her are painting an unflattering picture of Oscar Pistorius. The Daily Mail is the only outlet reporting that the family of Reeva Steenkamp was told by police that her skull was crushed, possibly with a cricket bat that was found bloodied in the bathroom. The family reportedly viewed her body and saw extensive injuries, in addition to the gun shot wounds.

Olympic sprinter Oscar Pistorius crushed his girlfriend’s skull with a cricket bat before shooting her dead, police have told her family.

Details of the post-mortem examination of South African model Reeva Steenkamp were withheld from last week’s bail application hearing.

But grieving relatives who saw her body before Tuesday’s cremation in Port Elizabeth described horrific injuries from the cricket bat, and entry wounds from 9mm bullets fired by Pistorius.

They were also briefed about the model’s death by police and lawyers from the state prosecutor’s office. Source

That bloodied bat will play a crucial role in the trial and it will be interesting to hear what the forensics have uncovered. Oscar Pistorius’ defense was forced to detail its case in order for him to get bail. He said he used the cricket bat to break down the bathroom door. The prosecution didn’t have to reveal everything they discovered. It should be noted that the forensics haven’t come in and Oscar Pistorius could be in a jam if his account of what transpired doesn’t match the forensics. The fact that Reeva Steenkamp locked the bathroom door raising some red flags and when he screamed at the door, why didn’t she answer to say it’s me.

Cecil Myers, affectionately called her “Joburg dad” had the grim task of identifying her body. He was interviewed by the City Press and said, “The way she looked . . . that will remain with me forever.” Myers echoes the same sentiment as Reeva Steenkamp’s father, Barry Steenkamp, who said Oscar Pistorius will have to live with his conscience, whether he is telling the truth or not. Cecil Myers said, “she was my little girl, and he shot her four times from behind a closed door. One shot may have been a mistake – but four times?” That’s the position many are taking. One shot may be a mistake, but four, sound like some level of premeditation. He said his last contact with Reeva Steenkamp, hours before her murder, was in the form of a text message, saying  ”hi guys, I’m too tired. It’s too far to drive. I’m sleeping at Oscar’s tonight. See you tomorrow.”

Reeva Steenkamp’s best friend’s dad is painting a troubling picture of Oscar Pistorius — a dark side. Cecil Myers characterized Oscar Pistorius as “moody” and that he was very nice and charming when he and Reeva started dating but once they actually started going steady, that charm started to dissipate. Classic signs of an abuser. How many victims of domestic violence can look back and say, yes, that’s how my abuser reeled me in and got me comfy. Myers said, Pistorius stopped coming inside their home to say hello. ”He just dropped her and picked her up. That’s not right. I call it respect. If you’re in a relationship and you pick up the ‘daughter’ in the house, at least come in and say hello.”

“She went with Oscar to a sports-awards evening. And after that he wouldn’t leave her alone. He kept pestering her, phoning and phoning and phoning her.“Oscar was hasty and impatient and very moody – that’s my impression of him.“She told me he pushed her a bit into a corner. She felt caged in. I told her I would talk to him. I told him not to force himself on her. Back off. He agreed, but his face showed me what he was thinking: ‘Oh, this guy is talking nonsense.’ He did cool down a bit. Then they started going out steadily, and she was more at his home.“I once talked to her about Oscar’s moodiness. She didn’t answer me.”

He takes Oscar’s testimony that he and Reeva were madly in love with a pinch of salt. “I think she loved him, but it was no massive love affair.”Was he ever worried about Reeva and Oscar? “My answer to that is ‘no comment’, and that’s probably enough of an answer. There’s a dark side to him. And all we’re left with now is a huge emptiness.” Source

Some may think Oscar Pistorius is walking free at this juncture. But he isn’t. He will never be free nor will ever be looked at the same way again. Whether he is acquitted of premeditated murder and given a lesser charge, he will have to live with the blood of Reeva Steenkamp on his head and his hands. Too many women are losing their lives at the hands of their significant-others.  Oscar Pistorius, the South African hero, inspirational role model who overcame adversity and the international celebrity, is now a murderer. Whether it was accidental or the result of domestic violence, he will never go back to life as usual and he shouldn’t. It’s funny that Oscar Pistorius is reportedly about to accept delivery of a pricey supercar — a 204 mph 3.8 liter McLaren MP4-12C Spider that he ordered last year. He has reportedly vowed not to drive it because of the image it would portray. He has the car but the Steenkamps and Myers don’t have Reeva.

Here’s a graphic of what the police found in Oscar Pistorius’ home (City Press):

Chris Brown Cancels Dec. 26 Stadium Concert in Guyana Due to Local Outrage Over 2009 Rihanna Beating

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Chris Brown Cancels Dec. 26 Stadium Concert in Guyana Due to Local Outrage Over 2009 Rihanna Beating (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Chris Brown cancels a stadium concert in Georgetown, Guyana, after local protests over his 2009 beating of then-girlfriend Rihanna. He was set to headline the December 26th concert, but drew the ire of women’s rights groups and opposition politicians who said he would not be welcome in Guyana. Concert promoter Hits & Jams Entertainment said he backed out because he was uncomfortable with the protests.

You will recall Chris Brown choked, bit and hit Rihanna during a heated argument in Los Angeles. He later pleaded guilty to assault and was sentenced to probation and community service. Chris Brown has sought to repair his image since then, even recording a duet with Rihanna on her recently released album. Um, all that comes to mind is Ike and Tina Turner. We saw how that turned out.

 Chris Brown Cancels Dec. 26 Stadium Concert in Guyana Due to Local Outrage Over 2009 Rihanna Beating

Inventor YaVaughnie Wilkins Taking the Business World by Storm with Innovative New Products, “Glamorous Lie” Documentary

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YaVaughnie WilkinsTaking the Business World by Storm with Innovative New Products (YAVAWI Enterprises)

Black inventors are a rare breed in our society and naturally, my interest was piqued when I heard about YaVaughnie Wilkins’ revolutionary bathroom tissue roller, ReJUVENESCENCE, which debuted online late last year. ReJUVENESCENCE is heading for store shelves in the next few months. YaVaughnie Wilkins, who served in the U.S. military for a short period of time, is no stranger to innovation.  She has several projects in the pipeline, including more products. I found YaVaughnie’s story riveting and wanted to share the very essence of this rising black female entrepreneur with our readers. In many respects, the issues she grappled with as a child and even in adulthood are similar to what many women faced growing up and even as adults themselves.

So, what is ReJUVENESCENCE? It is a tissue roller filled with beads soaked in “sophisticated, long-lasting essential oils.” “They are made in America of recyclable material and covered perforations on each roller allow users to control the amount of fragrance released.” The line also includes candles and scented kitchen towel holders, and both come in three natural scents, “Wild Orchid, Moonflower and Spice,” according to a recent press release.  YaVaughnie recently made waves at the 2012 Nickelodeon Kids’ Choice Awards when ReJUVENESCENCE took part in the Connected Gift Rooms’ pre-Kids’ Choice Awards suite. The products were part of the celebrity experience venue, part shopping mall and part teen radio show, with dozens of celebrities sampling products from over 30 vendors. ReJUVENESCENCE received the endorsements of former NFL player Matt Leinart, actor Scott Baio, “Modern Family” young actor Nolan Gould, “A.N.T. Farm’s” Sierra McCormick and many others.

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There is more to YaVaughnie Wilkins than her revolutionary bathroom rollers and I was in for a real treat when I spoke with her late last month. YaVaughnie juggles three enterprises under YAVAWI Enterprises LLC umbrella. The companies are:  Follow Thru, LLC, which deals with product development and is the home of ReJUVENESCENCE™; Free Spirit Rider, which YaVaughnie describes as an ”open forum for research and discussion on public affairs for politics, social issues, economics and current laws.”  Next up is 21 Yellow Tulips, an independent production and publishing company. She is currently working on a feature-length documentary “The Glamorous Lie,” which tells her story of overcoming adversity. YaVaughnie rose like a phoenix from the seemingly insurmountable obstacles she faced,  stepping out of the shadows of notoriety, from an irretrievably broken relationship influenced by her childhood, and from the long struggle to find happiness and success. She is also working on her second book, a non-fiction thriller, AUGUST, which details “how the liberty and career of a Wall Street executive are saved at the great sacrifice and expense of those deceived into loyalty and conspiracy.” YaVaughnie also has a children’s book in the works, as well as another documentary, Dot.Com, which focuses on the period leading up to the tech industry meltdown from 1996-2000.

So, who is YaVaughnie Wilkins? She is a role-model and a mover-and-shaker for not just black women, but all women. She embodies what America is all about, from her rich biracial heritage, to her business acumen and her determination to succeed and innovate. That is the reason why I reached out to YaVaugnie Wilkins. Her story is compelling and speaks to the power of hard work and the will to succeed in the face of adversity. We need more INNOVATORS in the black community and we salute YaVaughnie Wilkins for her accomplishments. When I asked her about being a role model, YaVaughnie was modest, but realized this was an awesome and powerful responsibility. She said, she has a handful of women in her life and doesn’t know where she would have been without these women. She said it is a daunting responsibility and wants to do the right thing because so many people are watching.

YaVaughnie  exuded so much enthusiasm when we talked about turning an idea into a product, as she did with ReJUVENESCENCE. She is very proud of the products she has taken to market and has more exciting things in the pipeline. Black innovators are a rare breed, particularly black female innovators. YaVaughnie has learned a great deal from the process of taking of applying for a patent, which can be quite daunting, but rewarding once it comes to fruition.

I was especially interested in the process of moving a concept from idea to product. She said she thought of the product and went to a patent attorney to ascertain what the process entailed. She said she decided to do the research herself, to reduce the cost, and included a review of prior art, meaning conducting a thorough research of all the different types of air fresheners, scented toilet paper rollers, etc. The lawyer then files the patent application and then the rest is on the U.S. Patent Office, which could take from one to three years to grant or reject the patent application. She said the process is daunting and expensive, but if you do the research yourself, that reduces some of the costs. Next up is the prototype and then the actual product will be produced once everything falls into place. Once that’s all done, you are ready to take the next step, to find a manufacturer and then get it to market.

Kudos to YaVaughnie for sticking to the “Made in America” mantra that has eluded us in recent years. Her products are manufactured in the U.S. and not in China or any other country, and the products uphold the highest levels of social responsibility to the environment. YaVaughnie and her team are working to get ReJUVENESCENCE into stores such as Bed Bath & Beyond and Nordstrom, but her “ultimate goal is to license” the products to other companies such as hotels, customized to their needs. She is also working to get on “Shark Tank” to get promotional backing from one of the “sharks” at the end of May.

The current political landscape also  featured prominently in our discussion, from a business perspective. She said she was very disappointed that the two people we have to choose from aren’t people she would readily support on the ballot. She said the process of choosing a candidate has turned her off because the decision will have been made for her once it gets to California, due to the primary process. Many voters have expressed the same reservations about both President Obama and the presumptive GOP candidate Mitt Romney.

YaVaughnie also gives a portion of her proceeds to charities such as the Rape Trauma Services of San Mateo County, the Gay and Lesbians Alliance Against Defamation, Big Brothers, Big Sisters of America, the National Society of Black Engineers and the National Black Child Development Institute, because most represent issues she dealt with while growing up. She recalled being molested as a child and said that dogged her for many years, even playing a role in how she viewed herself and the relationships she had with men. Though the molestation was horrific, she has grown from it as a person and won’t allow herself to be abused by anyone. She also talked about her mother and the domestic violence she endured, as well as the woman she became, largely shaped by those experiences. YaVaughnie Wilkins is the embodiment of the American dream and what one can achieve with hard work, dedication, tenacity and surrounding oneself with the right people. We urge you to listen to this riveting interview and tell your friends about YaVaughnie Wilkins and what she’s doing. She’s one bad Sistah!

Judge Denies Marissa Alexander Request for New Trial Despite “Stand Your Ground” Defense

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Judge Denies Marissa Alexander Request for New Trial Despite "Stand Your Ground" Defense

UPDATE 05/11/12: Marissa Alexander sentenced to 20 years in prison for firing gun in ceiling of Jacksonville FL home, sad day for domestic abuse victims everywhere.

JACKSONVILLE STAND YOUR GROUND: Setback for Marissa Alexander as Judge James Daniel denies her request for a new trial Thursday morning despite her “Stand Your Ground” defense against her abusive husband, Rico Gray. Marissa Danielle Alexander faces a 20-year mandatory sentence on her sentencing set for May 11. She was found guilty on three counts of aggravated assault with a deadly weapon. Judge Daniel is considering acquitting her on  one of the three charges as the result of the testimony of one of the Rico Gray’s son, who said he was not in fear of his life during the shooting, the Florida Times-Union reports. Supporters of #MarissaAlexander rally for her outside a Florida courthouse. Live: http://t.co/kJE5N7xX

Here is the reaction to the news on Twitter:

Allen Iverson’s Estranged Wife Tawanna Iverson Seeking Restraining Order Against Him for “Disturbing Behavior”

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Allen Iverson's Estranged Wife Tawanna Iverson Seeking Restraining Order Against Him for "Disturbing Behavior" (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

SMH:  Another sad turn in the contemptuous divorce of Allen Iverson and his estranged wife, Tawanna Iverson. She just filed legal documents in their divorce battle accusing him of “engaging in increasingly contemptuous, threatening and disturbing behavior” over the last few months and she’s afraid things will get worse, TMZ reports. Tawanna Iverson now wants a restraining order against the baller. TMZ reports she’s also claiming he is hiding “big money” from her and she wants a judge to stop him. Another Deion and Pilar Sanders hot mess.

NFL Great & Born-Again Christian Deion Sanders Tweets While Filing Police Report Against Estranged Wife

DEION SANDERS TWEETS WHILE FILING POLICE REPORT– The drama going on in the home of NFL great Deion Sanders and his estranged wife Pilar Sanders is just sickening.  He tweets while filing a police report to file charges against the mother of his children. He claims he was assaulted by Pilar Sanders and she had apparently brought a friend along to help her kick his butt. For the record, I don’t condone domestic violence, but I don’t advocate airing all your dirty laundry in the public, especially if children are involved. Please show Deion Sanders your disgust or support on Twitter @DeionSanders

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Another tweet followed shortly thereafter, but do we really need this buffoonery?

I'm sad my boys witnessed this mess but I warned the police department here that she was gone try n harm me and my boys. This is on my mama!
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There’s more to this drama:

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Um, Deion Sanders isn’t the born-again Christian he claims to be or else he would have acted in a more appropriate manner. Airing your dirty laundry in public at the expense of your kids is just plain sick. Apparently many people share my views because he was slammed on Twitter by so many people. This is an absolute disgrace and he should be ashamed to call himself a father. I cannot believe this man posted this ridiculous mess on Twitter. If he was jumped, that’s wrong, but this isn’t for Twitter to decide. A police officer should be called on the scene.

Pilar Sanders’ mug shot:

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Pilar Sanders Arrested on Domestic Abuse Charge, Bail Set at $264

Both Deion Sanders and his estranged wife need to live in separate places until their divorce is final. They are both reckless and careless where their children are concerned. No child needs to be party to this mess and we didn’t need to see a picture of Deion Sanders’ kids filling out a police report. That’s just crazy.

Chris Brown Response to Critics after Grammy Victory: F*uck Off

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Chris Brown Response to Critics after Grammy Victory: F*uck Off (Mashable)

Chris Brown took to Twitter to respond to critics of his 2012 Grammy Awards victory by saying: fuck off. Wow, now that’s how someone who has been accused of being a woman beater should respond to the general public, right? Wrong. It shows he thinks he is entitled to be welcomed with open-arms after beating up his then-girlfriend Rihanna. It shows that the record label is more concerned with money than about what’s right. This rant clearly shows Chris Brown still has an anger management issue.

Everyone deserves a second chance, unless you are charged with a crime against children or being a cold-blooded murderer, but the way to earn the trust and respect from people isn’t to be overbearing and rude.

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