Just one episode and again the viewers of the reality TV Show REAL HOUSEWIVES OF ATLANTA were “treated” to another explosive confrontation between NeNe Leakes (@NeNeLeakes) and Peter Thomas (@PeterThomasRHOA). It is reported that NeNe makes a whopping $1 Million dollars this season, excluding bonuses, while her arch-nemesis Peter reportedly bring in $450,000. #uDoTheMath
The confrontation between NeNe and Peter began when NeNe’s husband, Gregg Leakes (@GreggLeakes), confronted Peter because of a heated exchange between he and NeNe which occurred a few episodes earlier.
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During the argument, NeNe Leakes argues Peter is behaving like little “ B-Word” right in Peter’s face! #GlovesOff
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There are commentators who will suggest “NeNe never called Peter a B!TCH, but merely stated he was “acting” like one. For folks who argue this – I’m not too sure if they understand the INFLECTION which NeNe used! In many cases– it’s not the term being used solely but also how the word was said that adds to its intention. Although NeNe didn’t ACTUALLY tell Peter he was A B!ITCH – the inflection sure seemed to say so, and with empathic triple exclamation points. #MaybeMoreExclamations
Reportedly, NeNe Leakes and Cynthia Baily’s are BEST FRIENDS – Cynthia, however, never uttered a word during the Leakes tirade. Additionally, Bailey didn’t appear to be on her husband’s side – as Cynthia has told Peter previously to let the women handle issues among themselves. As an aside, Cynthia’s last name is still Bailey after three years of marriage, in fact for the same amount of time the couple has been a part of RHOA– (yes, I know – I’m going too far) – I got to thinking!
I hit up the best collection of Social Media Friends around – my 5K Facebook homies- and asked the women a simple question.
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WOMEN: If your best GIRLFRIEND got in an argument with your MAN in your presence and called him a B!TCH with strength and anger – how would you respond?
Here are some of the noted responses with my commentary.
Up first was Angela McKinley of Virginia who stated, “I would have a heart attack because my best friend never cusses and she’s really nice to my husband. I could imagine my sister doing that more than my best friend. (Just not in her nature!) I’d probably go off on him too because I know there would be something majorly wrong for her to do that….either that or she lost her mind.”
Angela’s grappling with this question has a bit of humor and caution. She couldn’t believe her best friend would so such a thing, but she would assume her husband did something to set her off. Then again, she does reserve the right to believe that her friend might have “lost her mind.”
Shirley Tarkington of California stated, “If she felt comfortable doing that, or lacked the control in anger to dis like that, I would need to check what I have been feeding her consciously or unconsciously about him. But all that would be AFTER I check the hell out of her. If she is my “best girlfriend,” she wouldn’t disrespect me like that.”
Here is a great insight! Ladies, sometimes the conversation you share to your girlfriends outside the company of your husband lends to willingness to confront him. Your girlfriends “love” you and they don’t want to see you in pain – so, they have convo in their head as to what they will say to you man the next time they get the opportunity and a little liquid courage.
What is funny is I am sure the wife will look shocked by the exchange and her friend might become upset that she didn’t get the appreciation she believes she deserves for finally telling your man what he needed to know.
Taking a very different angle to this question was Jackie King of Louisiana. She commented, “I would have to say that I would begin to think that their relationship was more intimate than it should be.”
Don’t slip on this one! Sometimes when someone fantasizes about being in the arms of another – they create emotional relationships that are personal in nature. Meaning, they start to judge the partner of their affection as subpar and begin to fantasize who they would handle situations in their life if they were in a relationship with them.
Could NeNe be thinking ‘If Peter was my man, I would tell him….’? Or, maybe, ‘If Cynthia was my woman on the side, she couldn’t be…’? Don’t look at me crazy! In the words of the famous and late Johnny Cochran “If it doesn’t fit you must acquit.”
Taking an entirely different perspective on the question was Evelyn Polk who commented, “…if I’ve made a good choice and have good history in having him as my man and her as my “best girlfriend” I’d trust them to do what they do. It’s not really MY issue per se, and I could/would probably learn a lot about both of them by just observing and watching it unfold.”
This comment is what I call heartbreaking maturity. Maturity – because she is willing to let her husband and her girlfriend fix their beef between each other without interference. Remember, “It’s not really MY issue per se…”. Here is where the Heartbreak enters.
In male female relationships the arguing to peace is a very intimate and sexual situation. If a Husband and his wife’s girlfriend are spending too much time alone fixing a beef between the two –a synergy could swirl that will cause the makings of adulterous thoughts. Those thoughts can only be fought so long before WHAM BAM THANK YOU MA’AM has happened. Now, for the wife, it HAS become your problem, per se.
In the end, maybe Vivian Scott of Texas has the answer. She comments, “It doesn’t matter how a person act, I feel no one should be called the b-word.”
However, if a girlfriend didn’t heed to the warning as laid out by Vivian – LISA ROSS’BIRDLONG of California’s comment might be applicable. Birdlong comments, “If my best friend/friend had the nerve to pull this crap I would have torn her a new azz….As a woman I make it clear with my circle of friends when it comes to my man, He is off limits period. If you got an issue with him, come talk to me, neva eva TRY to check my man.”
Nichele Johnson – “I would not allow it, woman or man to disrespect my spouse. If she went there with him, I would talk with my girl about her choice of words.”
Annette Culpepper – “I would’ve quietly asked her to leave and we will discuss the incident later.”
JoAnn Kearney Carr – “1. My man can handle his own business, and 2. My best friend, I hope, would never go there. Will be reevaluating that friendship.”
Sheila A Cohen – “(1) if she claims the title best girlfriend then she would know me well enough not to attempt that. (2) if you have a problem with my husband come to me. (3) if you consider me a girlfriend then my husband must at least be a friend and if you can’t except constructive criticism from him our friendship is questionable at best. (4) just in case 1, 2 and 3 don’t work and you still feel like you can disrespect my husband and me when they surgically replace all your teeth I’m sure our friendship will be over!”
Tanya Denise Dennis – “I’d put my arms around her and have her walk away with me so we could discuss why she was so upset.”
Cynthia Taylor – “…Best girlfriend or not, my man always comes first and no one will disrespect him in front of me without being dealt with. In love of course.”
Wendy Waring – “If you have a conversation amongst your girlfriends and the men in your lives are seated in the circle of conversation, and your man is a thinking man who happens to be hearing issues which affect humans, not just men or women, then it’s natural to want to have input. It’s not like they were discussing their menstrual cycles or what it’s like being pregnant. I think 99% is how you say what you say. There are ways to get your point across without acting like you have a penis (wait, scratch that). Without being rude.”
Ayoka Ayanna Munoz – “Well I certainly would not take it lightly and not address it. As a wife, you are cleaved as one to your husband, so she is calling you the same name. Escalation of the situation would not be good, so I wouldn’t yell or strike out violently at that time because that shows the same mental weakness that the perpetrator has. But I would most definitely tell said name caller that she is wrong, out of bounds, and that until she gains some maturity and apologizes to my husband and to me for taking her anger out with name calling, then we won’t have any association at all. It is paramount that your husband know you are one flesh not just in word but in deed too. So that lady and I wouldn’t be talking until she came to her senses.”
Christine-Thérèse Broesamle – I wouldn’t have a friend who did that in the first place.
Colleen Matthews – You don’t want to know! Lol but it wouldn’t happen.
GOOD DAY/NIGHT & GOD BLESS!!!