Bobby Brown is not welcome at his ex-wife, Whitney Houston’s funeral Saturday, TMZ reports. On first thought, I could care less, but taking a closer look at the situation, as a mother, I can’t say I blame Cissy Houston and the family one bit. Bobby Brown may not have been the person who started Whitney Houston on this dangerous course with drugs and alcohol, but he enabled her and was a poor role model for his daughter, Bobbi Kristina. He didn’t take care of her in sickness and in health as he promised at the altar. This is the same man, who Whitney Houston said hit her. That’s domestic violence and no parent wants to hear that their adult daughter or son is living in such an environment. Telling Whitney Houston “I love you” during a concert hours after her death, certainly doesn’t make up for the way they both treated each other during their marriage. We should also be mindful of the fact that the family, particularly Cissy Houston, knows more about the marriage than the general public does.
Let’s not forget that Cissy Houston got a court order and went in on Whitney Houston to force her into rehab. This woman tried everything she could to help her daughter and her granddaughter, so no, I wouldn’t want to look around the church during such a solemn event, possibly caused by a drug overdose, and see the biggest one-time enabler sitting in the pews. I’m not saying he isn’t feeling any sadness. I am sure he is, but some of that sadness is tinged with guilt. When someone has to be watched when they take a shower or aren’t allowed to take a bath, this isn’t the result of a one-time incident. It’s the result of a pattern of systematic drug and/or alcohol addiction. Whitney Houston needed to be saved from herself. In the end, she was nothing more than a money-maker and a caretaker for her hangers-on and yes, people. That included Bobby Brown at one point. In her last days, Whitney Houston acted like an 18 year old coed during college pledge week and not as a grown woman with a teenage daughter. There’s a thing called personal responsibility that Whitney Houston had ignored time and time again.
Whitney Houston, if her death is ruled as a drug overdose, will take her place among a long line of entertainers who have had a love affair with drugs, including prescription drugs — Dorothy Dandridge, Judy Garland, Marilyn Monroe, John Belushi, Jim Morrison, Billie Holiday, Jimi Hendrix, Elvis Presley, Vesta Williams (though her death was due to an enlarged heart but she abused drugs for years), Michael Jackson, Anna Nicole Smith, Heath Ledger, Chris Farley, River Phoenix, Montgomery Clift, Dana Plato, Pimp C (Chad Butler), Vic Chestnutt, Kurt Cobain, Amy Winehouse, Eric Douglas, Margaux Hemingway, Phyllis Hyman, Janis Joplin, Alan Ladd, Gerald Levert, Bruce Lee, Frankie Lymon, Billy Mays (pitchman), Brittany Murphy, Freddie Prinze, to name a few. How many more celebrities are going to be allowed to self-destruct before their record labels and/or film studios change the culture that makes drug use so easy? Show business doesn’t have to be a death sentence to celebrities if they would only surround themselves with people who genuinely care about them and aren’t afraid to tell them no.
Let me end by saying, Chaka Khan, who had to run to Europe to clean herself up from a life of drugs, should be ashamed of herself for getting on national television (Piers Morgan’s show on CNN) to recall her fondest memory of Whitney Houston was getting high with the late singer and Bobby Brown in a Florida hotel room. Is that the best she could do? She has lost the respect I had for her. Chaka Khan should have been a better role model to her so-called friend, but instead was a prime example of what’s wrong with “celebrities” and the culture of self-destruction they often find themselves in. Neither Bobby Brown nor Chaka Khan and anyone else that Whitney Houston did drugs with, should be invited to her funeral. Yeah, Whitney Houston said it right during her interview with Diane Sawyer, “crack is whack” and drugs/alcohol may have whacked her out of here far too early.