This time you might be thinking I’m selfish as I choose to write about the importance of birthdays. It could be due to my own which arrives on December 11th each year. I have had many bithdays, some memorable and some not so memeorable, but I’m grateful that I get to tell my story and to live to see another year.
Some may ask, why write about birthdays. Well, the truth is I began to question the importance of it as I faced another milestone; mid-life and the circumstances which affect us in our middle years. Lately I have found myself encircled by people who seem to be at one point in mid-life or another.
It’s interesting to watch how each person deals with it; some are in denial and yet some remain puzzled by the changes that mid-life bring while others are just now going through it. Some day I’ll write more on this, but I want to keep the focus on the celebration of birthdays.
Have you ever been in a restaurant and hear the servers gather around a table to sing someone a happy birthday? Or have you been at work and seen your co-worker’s spouse or other family member receive flowers to celebrate their special day?
Or do you tear up when you’re at a child’s birthday party and see the cake with candles and the hope and laughter pictured on the child’s face.
That’s what birthdays are to me. Hope. I remain hopeful for each birthday that I get another year to pursue my goals and to live my life in the happiest state I can be. The wonderful thing about growing up is that you are able to witness life, and by that I mean, you begin to see life not as a joke or years you spend in college drinking and binging, but you become more appreciative of the meaning of life.
For most of us we become participants in our own lives instead of spectatators. One of the interesting perspectives I have observed is that very few people get to live as if they are actively engaged in the circumstances of their own lives. Some are just learning how to and yet a vast majority of people are spectators.
They are unaware of how much life means, as they continue to allow others to determine their outcomes. These are the folks I’m interested in getting to as I want to show you how you can unlock the meaning of life by not allowing someone else’s negative feelings and emotions to rob you of the greatest adventure; Discovering the meaning of your own life. BOOM!
My friends, there’s nothing more exhilarating than living each day with purpose. That I have discovered is the true joy of life. Knowing that I am fulfilling my life’s quest and are in active pursuit of my goals become the most engaging moments that I treasure. As your birthday approaches or if you have already celebrated one, take time to to review and analyze the changes you need to make in order to find your life’s meaning.
So many of us become someone else’s goal. We give and give and give, until our emotional wells run dry and nothing is left for us to give to the most important person:You. In order to serve those around you; spouse, children, family, friends, boss, colleagues, community etc. you must learn to give to you. Make that your goal for your next birthday.You should learn to treasure your own life and especilally in this day and age when sickness knows no boundaries, it becomes even more important to live each day to the fullest.
Each birthday for me is another chance not to relive the past. No, I don’t engage in negative forms of thinking. But I get to set new goals, rethink strategies, take better care of my health and to live to the fullest.
I look at the people around me and I think how blessed I am that my world is filled with people who love me. This includes you by the way. And I get to see a new perspective on life. My life is full, I don’t get a lot of chances to meditate or think about missed opportunities, I stay focused on what’s ahead.
Life is such an adventure. Somedays I say to myself, I really get a chance to to live out this adventure. There are still some things I want to do. In fact my lists are always long and they seem to lengthen each year as I strive to make a difference and help as many as I can get to.
For me that is the hallmark of a good life. Each minute of my day counts as I sit and plan and ponder my next moves. It’s on my birthday that I make The List of those who will be eliminated from my circle. Some by their own behavior have made themselves irrelevant. For others, their fate becomes known when the new year comes and they never hear from me again.
I think all of us should make that list. I choose to make mine on my birthday. For you it might be new year’s day. In any event if you are one of the blessed persons who celebrate your birthday during this month then here’s a Hey Ho! From me. You are an awesome person and just like me you get another year and another chance.